Different Strokes: Talk #3
Ten Tips on How to Be the One
Who is Different
"People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered; forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; be kind anyway. If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true friends; succeed anyway. If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight; build anyway. If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; be happy anyway. The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow; do good anyway. Give the world your best anyway. You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and G-d; it was never between you and them anyway." Mother Theresa
Sometimes the experience of difference is not between us and the important people in our lives, but between us and everyone else.
We sense there is something about us people don’t get and we are unable to clue them in. People cannot relate to us. Or perhaps we cannot relate to them.
To be the one who is different is difficult. Unless one is a genius, or a star athlete, or a millionaire, or an accomplished artist – and even when one is - the simple act of being different puts one at risk.
Not all differences are the result of emotional immaturity or mental illness. But people who march to a different drum often find themselves having to defend against the suspicion of being developmentally and/or psychologically unsound. This, in itself, can be crazy making.
Each of us wants to be understood and respected as the unique individual we are, but different suggests we are not relatable to. To one degree or another we all share the experience of being different, but we are encouraged to keep that experience to ourselves.
In a society as diverse and transient as ours, there is survival value in focusing on common ground. But is denying difference the only way to achieve common ground? And what to do with differences that cannot be denied?
Whether you are the one who is different, or you simply want to learn how better to support those in your circle who are, please join us for the last Ten Tips
talk in this series. The challenge to live an authentic life is a uniquely human challenge, and it can be a difficult path to follow even for the most common among us. For those of us who are less common, the path is often also narrow and daunting.
Talk will be held at:
HOPE Counseling Center*
1430 Alhambra Blvd., Suite 200
Sacramento, CA, 95618
*Note: Hope Center is on the second floor of a building that does not have an elevator. If you require special accommodations, please contact me so I can make other arrangements for you.
Email or Call now: (530) 863-9499
Rebecca Witter, LMFT - Midtown Sacramento and Davis, CA Therapist
2830 I Street, Sacramento, CA 95816 719 2nd Street, Davis, CA 95616